Part I
1st Chapter
BUMPY LIFE
Jacky Liew
HIS WHOLE LIFE
This is the only childhood photo of Jacky liew
“Still remember the dark days in life when he was abandoned by his family and betrayed by his loved one. Maybe he also has been lost and humbled, does not know the reason for living?”
Even he felt the people in his surroundings have turned him into a transparent person, no one will care about him and listen to him. He wants to separate himself from his family, relatives and friends, avoid strange gazes, and don’t want to see anyone again. He felt he has nothing to do with all of these matters. But he didn’t realize that he fell into the bottomless abyss step by step, sinking deeper and deeper, but his subconscious was so hopeful that he could get the attention of others. When he was about to drown if someone was willing to give a helping hand to him. he would dedicate all his life and everything to the one who saves him.
The seven characters poem “Chang-An ancient“: “If only I can be with you, I will confront the death fearlessly and quit the best opportunity without hesitation (Original sentence: If we could become a couple that stays like a flounder day and night, we will not be afraid even died; if we willing to be a lifelong couple like a mandarin duck (represents fidelity), we will not even envy gods’ life)” is the best sentence to describe the love between Jacky Liew and Christin Lee who have been married for more than 30 years.
Mr. Subleaser and His Tenant College Girl
The story began since Jacky Liew has suffered emotionally injured from his previous relationship. He finally decided to left home and used his life savings to contract the entire building as a dormitory for students. At that time, Christin Lee lived there and was a pre-university student. To her, she felt the Mr. subleaser is very mysterious. There was another tenant who brought her to view the room and collect the rental payment. She knew that he was in the building but couldn’t see him. He will only go out for dinner after midnight like afraid of being seen by others. She was curious about him and wanted to approach him. The strangest thing was that he hadn’t taken a step out of the room in a day and didn’t see he consumes any food to satisfy his hunger. It has made Christin, who lived in the opposite room felt pity. Every time, she will hang a lunch box in front of his door handle, and from then on, he has nothing to repay her kindness except for giving her a happy marriage.
In the evening at the end of one year, Christin Lee came back from the library and met Jacky Liew in this building for the first time. He was so thin and pale that she was loved by pity, as if there was a secret behind his life. She wants to know more about his past. Until she went to the teahouse with her classmates, she met Jacky Liew again. At that time, it happened to be drizzling outside. She saw him sitting alone in the corner, reading a book and drinking tea. He was wearing a woolen shirt that is still impressive to this day, like a weak scholar. The intuition tells Christin that this person is very lonely and has a sense of vicissitudes, and needs someone to take care of him. So she invited the Mr. subleaser to join her by the reason of her classmate is friend of Jacky’s sister.
For Jacky Liew, this was a rare opportunity and he also knew who left the lunch box everyday. The first time he saw Christin Lee was before she went to school. He felt that the girl’s complexion was whiter than snow. Although she dresses simple, she was indescribably graceful. This time in the tea house, he saw her walking towards him with smile and a subtle fragrance. He has noticed her since she entered the tea house, under the dim light, she looked like a beauty and swayed by her clever talk especially to the poems. What is even more amazing is she good at writing calligraphy, especially replica to the tiny Chinese script. Both of them fall in love at first sight, and she will often give him a regular script of poems to express her love. Jacky Liew has been pray silently to the God, if he can fulfill his wish and be with her forever, he willing to spend her life’s wealth as exchange for this girl as his wife. He also promise whenever he is, he will bring Christin along with him. He will adhere faithfully to his promise. Since then, the two of them have always communicate through literature and arts and they talked together for a whole night. Even now, their love are still very affectionate and admire by the people around them. They feel that there is no more suitable description for this pair of couple in the world, so often It is dubbed as “perfect couple”.
Christin Lee is the youngest daughter of the family. She has been kind to everyone since she was a child. Although she is not good at cooking, in order to let her beloved eat well, the first meal cooked for Jacky Liew is chicken porridge, so that he can replenish his body. And Jacky Liew presented to Christin Lee, it was a bowl of plain noodles with scallion oil. They depends on each other in this rented buildings. In Old Chinese tradition, the relationship between the landlord and the female student was not favored at the time. It can be said to be extremely mismatched. For fear of Christin Lee being deceived, even the teacher and classmates came to persuade Christin to leave, because Jacky Liew gave people the feeling that it was one behave eccentrically. Even if they walk together, they will be humiliated by people maliciously. What’s more, because one day, Jacky’s father suddenly rushed to the teahouse. By coincidence, Christin and her classmate were doing homework. He accused Christin “you had bad influence on my son.” The site silence on the spot and the air seemed to freeze instantly. This evening, Christin sat in the corner of the teahouse with red and swollen eyes, silently reading the book without saying a word.
There is no one qualified to admit the identity of Christin as Jacky’s wife, only Jacky could.
There is also no need anyone to admit her identity, as it is the personal matters of both of them.
The Romantic Poem of Famous
D A Y A N D N I G H T
Love Tokens
The husband gifted his wife with rose
When Jacky saw her at the moment and knew the whole story, he was heartbroken and disappointed with his father. Since then, he will put her in the place above all else, tolerate her, love her, and care about her feelings, like the precious holding her in the palm. In her lifetime, he must let her be proud of him and become the happiest woman in the world. This is due to a man’s greatest pride is that a woman is willing to pay her absolute trust and support even he is in a slump, and the greatest pride for a woman is that a man is willing to reject countless women for her because he understands that “fail her” is equivalent to let her lose for a lifetime. If it is true love, you shouldn’t let her shed a tear and be wronged. This is what a “capable man” should do.
In order to show his love for Christin, he bought a pair of “ivory earrings” from an antique shop in Kuala Lumpur as a gift for her birthday. That year, they had experienced too many rumours, and he hopes the earrings would cover her ears, and look at Jacky in her eyes. Later, Christin always wore this pair of carved ivory earrings, which were of special significance to the two of them, to show her fidelity to Jacky.
Since ancient times, ivory has been a symbol of nobility, power, wealth, and status, and the art of ivory carving is a national treasure of China. It seems that Jacky wants to take it as oath that he will end this sad and withered destiny for her in the future.
“You gave me ivory earrings, I am unable to repay this kindness, I knew that you don’t like mediocre things, so I bought this pearl watch with my first salary to you. May you cherish every moment with me” and attach this small note to the watch box. Since then, Jacky Liew nicknamed her Christin and the idea is from the watch named Christian Dior. Thus, this pair of earring and watch has become tokens of love between two of them, which have been preserved until now.
The poem of Spring in a Pleasure Garden written by Mao Zedong in 1936″ copying by Christin in Chinese calligraphy and gifted to Jacky as she knew that Jacky admired the spirit of Mao Zedong.
“I want the man like this”
Marriage is not about face saving, holding a veritable banquet, nor is it a legal constraint, but unconditionally paying for “him” or “her” for a lifetime-
The ending of Jacky and Christin just like every “lover who finally married”. However, Jacky felt guilty to Christin as he did not realize the dream of every women wishes, only once in a lifetime, wearing the beautiful wedding dress with lingering flowers, bouquets and hand-worn wedding rings for her. And in front of relatives and friends, swear to each other, even in adversity, they will sincerely guard each other, and will never leave her when she is most needed. Although he was unable to give her a wedding ceremony, but just like the gift of a token of love, the watch representing their belief in “love” was finally branded for a lasting moment, and faithfully remembered, from now on, tolerating each other, and also from this moment.
Soon after graduation, Christin gave birth to Jacky’s first child. The relationship between the two is so attached. They felt that having a child is to search for a good place to settle down and live a normal life. After resolutely ending the sublease business, he worked in the oil industry for nine to five, submitted some articles for publication, bought the first house, and started investing in homeownership. The days were pretty good, but he still failed to open the tangled within his heart.
He brought the one-month-old child, the wife who has never received the slightest blessing from his parents, and the bad interpersonal relationship that imposed on him since childhood to return home with joy. However, what he received is unconcerned from his family. This kind of opposition seems to have existed since Jacky Liew left home. Then, the family relationship is on the verge of disintegration. There was none of Jacky Liew’s photo in the old home. Even his parent burned out all of his articles published in newspapers and magazines, newspaper clippings, materials, books, novels, etc. and no more left of them at home. They only ordered his sister to hand in the only graduation photo taken in kindergarten to him. After years passed, he still couldn’t heal from this pain. Since he was young, he eagerly hopes to get a slice of paternal love and attention to himself. For his family emphasized more to the scores than anything else however, it was a distant luxury for Jacky Liew since childhood.
At that time, he returned to the old house where he used to live, his parent felt that the purpose he going home was due to a difficult life and asked for help. The parent treated their child more detached than strangers after not seeing their child for a long time. Jacky, his wife and child lived in the storeroom and received the hopeless affection. The mother once hinted to him that “as a child, you should be rewarded, and shouldn’t be too far-fetched. This home has nothing left for you”. He was isolated from the remained pitiful reliance. In the mind of all relatives and friends, Jacky Liew became an incompetent child covered in fleas, they always try to avoid meeting him, so that he had to re-examine the scars on his back. If even the marriage with Christin Lee and the birth of a newborn could not change the relationship with the family, then how can Christin Lee and the child endured this embarrassment in the future. He could not bear anymore to let her wife and her children be looked down upon. Jacky Liew had to cheer up again, let the “time” as the best proof for him. He was very minding the mediocrity of his life. He believes that only “success and fame” can heal his sad heart. Another more embarrassing real story that Jacky Liew experienced came from his brother who settled in the United States and studied computer science. He left a sentence before returning to the United States “if the parent did not treat you in this way, you wouldn’t have achieved what you have today”. His word has taken all of Jacky’s achievements for granted, but the “suffering” is less than one ten thousandths. They never thought that a tree was nailed, even if it was pulled out, the tree is still alive, but the body has left a gloomy hole that is hard to cure.
Due to his father treat him harsh since childhood, even his family members were also holding an indifferent attitude. Since he was sensible, he saw his father only tend to treat his house as living in a hotel. His father only went back home to change his clothes or take a bath. Till the next day night, his father will be only at the house for 2-3 hours, this kind of situation is permanent for 365 days every year and repeatedly each day. Although his father is at home, he is often drunk or expressionless and difficult to approach, and wouldn’t care about family affairs. Perhaps the blood ties, Jacky Liew although strange to his father but still awe-inspiring to him. His brother and sisters seem like didn’t know each other as they only ate together at the same table during the festival but didn’t say a word. They just wanted to finish eating quickly and hid in their rooms. On weekdays, they ate their food, and no one paid any attention to each other.
For the fabricated fact that his father had created for him, he had no choice but to suffer in silence. AfterJacky had left home when his father caught a fancy on a piece of land and asked Jacky to purchased it, Jacky was unwilling to disobey him as long as he had the capability to buy it. However, afterwards, his father told relatives and friends that this piece of land was originally intended to be given to Jacky. So he took back the piece of land from Jacky’s hand as Jacky had disrespect to him. On the contrary, the fact is, Jacky’s father fraudulently used Jacky’s signature and went to the lawyer’s office to sign a contract with the tenant who leased the land to collect rent for more than ten years, but his father never paid any of the land tax. It is not that Jacky Liew did not aware of the incident, after all, he was his father. He should have been repaying the debt of nurturing his father, so it just let go of the matter. But in the eyes of others, it turned out to be the bad son who didn’t care for his parents. However, in the end, just like the drama, often the worst son turned out to be the “only” good son who accompanies the father in the last journey in life. Even Jacky Liew’s wife and children had come to give him the last ride, the eldest grandson is a guardian at the bier for his grandfather. This is because the past of the previous generation should not be extended to the next generation.
Jacky Liew has been expressed regret in his heart. His parent gave birth to him, although they treat Jacky bad, he is willing to suffer no matter how much hardship. He cared about his parents, and the only thing he can do is to pay more effort and hope his parents will take a look.
No matter what a person has done before, he must be able to protect his family’s property at critical moments, be able to fight himself against the ups and downs of his life, and stand up for justice. In reality, this is not something everyone can do, and a fearless spirit is needed. Therefore, everyone has the opportunity to become a hero in life, and even all kinds of hardships, temptations, and censures can’t disturb his heart. No matter what kind of predicament he at, he is willing to show the gentleman’s demeanor and not humiliate his family.
Decide
“Parents always right, the child has no right to interfere”,
although parents could not choose, but the faith can decide by yourself.
You can choose your wife, her good or bad is all depends on how you act.
Although Child could not choose who are their parents,
but their fate are decide by their parents before they are mature,
Then by themselves for the future after they become adult.
Later, Jacky Liew had became a lecturer and often went abroad. He always anxious to return home and called to Christin Lee to express his yearn much to her. When he was in Malaysia, he had to go to major cities to give lectures every month. Whenever there was holiday, they would properly arranged everything and brought his wife and children everywhere on vacation and had basically staying in most of the hotels. Christin once said to his brother who persuaded her to leave Jacky: “It is actually a good enjoyment to love a person. It is the best way to repay the person who loves you if you don’t ask for anything, don’t haggle over what you had pay, and give out what you had silently.” Jacky Liew who was in the room inadvertently heard this and was extremely touched. After that, he gave every penny earned to Christin. The most important thing was that Jacky was constantly running around, and misfortune was unpredictable. If something really happens, who will take care of his wife and the child? In addition, he really feels that “it’s too difficult to meet a woman perfectly match to him” Because Jacky liewlan really likes Christin’s kindness, this is especially important to Jacky Liew.
In the Chinese poem,
“Up and down the main streets, I must have run –
A thousand times or more in quest of none,
Who, I have concluded, cannot be found;
For, everywhere, no trace of her can be seen,
When, all of a sudden, I turn around,
That’s her, where lanterns are few and far between”
As he grew older and walked through the vicissitudes of life and understood the vision and reality, he had already understood in his heart that there was never “others’ wives are the best. Only “own wife is the best”. Love, the important thing is to know each other and cherish each other, love is in the moment. You don’t even need to spend, just say “I love you”, give her a loving hug every day, tell her how much you miss her and need her. Many resentments were due to the two people’s ignorance of each other. Jacky Liew never wanted her to guess what he was thinking and would just tell her directly, because she would never know if you didn’t say it. The best way to keep a love is hold her hand to the endless forever.
How to “love at the moment” is very simple, it means “do it” at the moment. Rather than thinking about it, like the epiphany of “Zen”, understanding at the time means understanding. If you don’t understand, you won’t understand even explained it many times. Quoted from Zhuangzi Joy of Fish “You are not a fish, from what do you know the joy of fish?” If you did not experience it, how do you know the happiness?
If unable to “love at the moment” means that think of too much. Humans just don’t understand the truth as soon as they listen, but to calm the mind. Don’t just think but to feel, there is no other way. “The moment” means that you are willing to stop, and look into your heart, and feel how much you want in your heart at that moment. There is no better way than “I am willing to do it.” It’s not that you can let it go by saying “let down”, it must be released slowly, until one day, you will understand what “love is in the moment” is all about.
However, most people live in the world they identified, and they keep falling into the whirlpool of thoughts, like being tied up with countless ropes, clinging to the words, the joys, the suffering of other people. It’s just like turning around and don’t know how to escape. Only that jump out from it, the troubles will disappear. This “jumping out” does not mean not thinking about it, but not in anxiety. It’s not a daze, this “daze” will make your mind go unconscious every minute. Therefore, only by returning to the most basics and letting the mind let go of obsessions can we truly live in the present. The most touching thing about “love” is that you are willing to believe and understand after experiencing it yourself. Only by paying from the “heart” can you persuade yourself to “live in the present”, that is, to live in normal daily life. Since it is a normal life, you will not be confused about it. If something is wrong or dislikes it, just change it right now and let the other person like it. Don’t get yourself into a blind alley. This will only bring more anxiety and uneasiness. You must know that the “heart” is full of freedom and love. Love can exist for thousands of years and this is so-called happiness.
Happiness is very simple. Nowadays, educating children is telling them truthfully that love is actually about life. There may be a lot of boring, trivial, annoying, and even complaints the wife is no longer beautiful, love will become ugly and it is destined not to last. The real “love” is to tolerate her by treating the ugliest she had as the most beautiful. Jacky Liew didn’t understand it before and felt annoying, but now it all becomes interesting. Especially when he had experienced the impermanence of life. So Jacky knows Christin better than before, sometimes with a look in both eyes, they will understand each other meaning. In their free time, they would go out together, eat a bowl of noodles, and talk happily. Even though others felt cheesy, but they still don’t live in the eyes of others. After all, this is a matter for the husband and wife. It makes people have to sigh “love is so great.”
What Jacky Liew wants for love is …
To stay together till death and end. For far, or near, hand, oath, accord
What he could return is only a rose, a poem and a promise that he would love her forever.
Jacky Liew who is dedicated to a writing career more or less will have some talents. He has long yearned for the love stories between the characters in the novels and used this as a standard to meet girls, but he always couldn’t catch up with the ideal love he wants. So before meeting Christin, he had experienced the days that unrestrained.
Maybe he had been lonely for a long time and wished to have a home of his own. He thinks that he would be a good husband and a good father. Once, he puts all the hopes into his first relationship that hurt him. However, it is just his wishful thinking. What he always search for just a woman who could loyal to the husband, it represents the woman virtues. And what he could in return is only a rose, a poem and a promise that “love her forever”. Finally, Christin had changed and emasculated him.
As for his love for Christin Lee, he has lived all of his life without falsehood. In the past, he was very unconfident in his romantic life. For fear that a woman such as Christin would dislike herself and always feel that he is not the lucky man who can enjoy the most unforgettable love. This is God’s mercy to him. With her gentleness, he was pulled from the abyss of sorrow and slowly fall in love with her. Christin has long been regarded as a unique beauty in Jacky’s heart. He thinks that she is gifted as a human mannequin, so he often takes her to go shopping and buy clothes. It is true that she has long enjoyed the name of beauty during her school time. Except for her, the other ladies seemed to be ordinary in the eyes of Jacky. Her frown and smile made Jacky sleepless at night and couldn’t leave her for a moment. He felt that meeting him was the greatest fortune in his life. In old says, “a good woman will not leave his husband, they could share the joys and sorrows, regardless of poverty, illness. But the bad woman will leave, if you lose ones in life, it is the destiny, if you have ones, it is your fortunate“. No one can expect the future, whether it will be like a fairy tale and lead to a happy ending. The old things have passed away. Now, he receives his best ending.
The union of Jacky Liew and Christin Lee did not have the lavish wedding as her siblings. Their marriage did not obtain the blessing of both parents, and no relatives or friends witnesses. There were only stamps and a piece of legal paper were attached to testify, but Jacky still felt guilty for her. After the four children grow up, he hopes that the love between them will be blessed by their children. They will have another wedding for Christin Lee. This is the most solid commitment of Jacky to Christin.
Jacky and Christin met from the teahouse and discussed the poems and articles like ancient people. In often time, Jacky read and Christin wrote it. Jacky has been given a poems “laugh at the affection” as a metaphor for he has been suffered the pain of love and he does not want to search for his “goodness” thousands of times in dreams. This is a heart in the words, and he hopes Christin could read it and understands his experience.
Affection for each other
This is Liew Seng Lam’s original intention of “love” through poems, giving her relief
Without the support of my wife, I never will be a Food Gourmet and writer.
A success man has his woman behind, due to his success, so he has a pretty woman
– Jacky Liew
The writer and the Orchid
The ancient Chinese poem “It is the king of fragrance plant and the root born in the valley. The flowers bloom in the first spring, the new branches are fresh. Friends with good person is like entering the room full of orchids.”
Flower-Cherisher
If one day, Jacky Liew and his wife get old together, they can learn to grow orchids together, drink tea together, cook together, and holding hands together. Because people only have a good life once, and Jacky’s happiness, only once in his life be good to Christin.
If she likes flowers, he will buy a piece of land for her to grow flowers, help her to move the soil, and fertilize the plants. Men have many ways to express love to their wives, giving them the most solemn gifts, jewellery, houses, and cars, as long as she wants them, Jacky will give them to her. Even the simplest bouquet would make her cry into tears. When she is old, he will just buy the piece of land beside the road to let her plant flowers, so that people who pass by will envy her be able to walk in a blooming flower garden, that kind of sentiment is more precious than giving her diamonds. Good-fated women only admire and pick flowers, and don’t have to worry about their children and family planning. When you see her with this verdant meadow and neatly manicured garden, you will have the impression that the woman must have a happy family. If you see the flowers and trees outside the house is a mess, you can know that this woman has done what a man should do and is busy earning for livelihood.
He knew that the standard husband in a woman’s mind should be gentle and considerate. Outside, he could look like a tiger, able to protect her, and be considerate to her. Inside, he can cook, know how to do house works and when people ask, he has to be very modest and praise his wife for the nice cooking. All the credit goes to the wife because he feels that this is what a man should do.
The Woman who loves gardening is the most happiness,
The Woman who sleeps early has the good fortune.
-Jacky Liew
Gather ye rose-buds while ye may
Flower-Lovers in 3 Generation
In the past, he took his wife to pick flowers in the mountains, and when he had a daughter, he took her to pick flowers too, so that she could feel that as a woman, she should loved as the way her father loves her mother. When he has his grandchildren, he hopes that he could lead his granddaughter to explore the flowers in the mountains, sit on the grass together, and tell her the story of grandmother. Since then, there have been no regrets in his life.
A man like an Orchid
The Story of
Cymbidium
A happy marriage will turn Cinderella into Princess
and the responsibilities is on her half “willing” to love her and happiness.
The beauty of young girl does not as good as the beauty that husband’s love.
In opposite, a girl will turn into ordinary without the love
She Fully
Favoured
By Her
Husband
Her Mother Only Told Her
For LOVE She Need To
Treat
Love
As
Forever
The Food God who loves his wife
In a movie, Donnie Yen said “I am the Yong Chun Master who loves wife, but he is the Yong Chun Master who went to brothel”
In both of their Chinese name, Jacky Liew (Chinese: 廖城兰) which brought the Chinese character of orchid and Christin (Chinese: 李翠枝) which brought the character of the branch, if joined together, it would be the one. Because it is hard for the flower to live alone without branches. Perhaps it’s also because Jacky’s surname is Liew and Christin’s surname is Lee. So that the alliance of two surnames are “Liew and Lee (Chinese: 廖李, pinyin: Liào Lǐ) (the homophonic in Chinese refers to cuisine), so he would like to marry Christin Lee and cook for her for the whole life.
She formerly liked “rose”, so her youngest daughter named “Wei Wei (Chinese: 薇惟) which means “the only rose”. The implication of the name is to wish her as kind and pure as her mother, and she is the rose on the palm of the whole family. At the same time, Jacky Liew also loves Orchid, so she loves the orchid too. It should be understood that the alias of orchids is “The ancestor of Fragrance (Chinese: 香祖)”, it refers to the fragrance of orchids, which is the fundamental and elegant symbol of all fragrances in the world. Chinese uses orchids as a metaphor for human aptitude and beautiful sentiments.
Christin loves the fragrance of orchids, just like when she first met Jacky, he always carries a faint fragrance on his body, which is natural and not hypocritical. Therefore, she likes to put orchids on the tabletop of Jacky’s study room “Orchid Pavilion”, saying that it can bring aura to the holy text.
She thought that the description of Liu Qi-bao on orchids is the best resembling the character of Jacky: “The orchid-lover always loves his people. This is because the orchid inhabits the deep valley. It is difficult for people to know the appearance of it. Although the orchid is fragrant it is not to compete with other plants. Is difficult for others to appreciate, to know the orchid and understand the orchid. The orchid-lover does not look down to the grass root, does not search it in the plant crowds, does not treat it as only love. Orchid is actually like people, its quality, its appearance, its purity is close to the people. Therefore, the one who loves orchid must love the people”. She asked him to follow the meaning of the articles, work hard to contribute to the country, be close to the people and be able to practice what he had promised. Just like the orchid-lover who loves the people, he had to help those in need, changes their way of life, and enhances cultures. Nowadays, most of the person overwhelmed by Jacky’s spirit and charming manner. Although Christin loves orchids, she does not good at planting flowers. She had buried all of the orchid varieties that Jacky gifted to her as she did not know the difficulty of “planting orchids”. The planting of orchids had already exceeded her knowledge, since then, the wife of the agricultural lecturer has never dared to plant orchids, for fear of killing the orchids. It seems that in the next half of her life, Jacky and Christin will review back what he had taught in the classroom.
However, Jacky Liew would still say frankly that in her life, his wife was her favourite, and the second was the orchid she planted with only stems and no flowers. It was an indescribable sentiment. She knew how to appreciate the orchid but couldn’t grow it, this means that the “uniqueness” of the orchid. But to Jacky, it is a most beautiful creature.
“Marriage” represented that two people who loved each other decided to give each other a legal title and stay together for a lifetime. On that day, the wedding that the bride looked forward to is wearing a white veil and heading for happiness. Since ancient times, countless women have longed for it even before they met their sweetheart. In the wedding of only two people that year, in order to compensate his beloved wife in the future, Jacky would buy different wedding dresses and gowns for his beloved wife to wear, and spend they honeymoon in hotels in various countries. Let Christin feeling happiness until grow old. The picture above shows the “Kiss of True Love” from Jacky to his beloved wife. It because of his “bride” is always the most beautiful inside his heart.
Kiss of True Love
Treat her as Precious
Christin often accompanied Jacky to attend various dinners and living like a celebrity. This is due to the promise of Jacky that he will always bring Christin by his side and never leave her alone. The picture above shows Christin wore the bridal dress chosen by her husband himself and waited for the limousine to be picked up to the “Night Banquet”. He will be waited her there.
Love until Old age
No matter how old, Jacky will brings his wife to regain memories, remembering they barefoot and hand in hand in the mountains to pick orchids to make fun with her when their first fell in love. Jacky said that “the scent of the flowers I picked for you is still not as good as the fragrance that you leave on my lips.” She scorned and knocked my head with a flower branch and said “you are a flower-spitting man (glib-tongue)”.
A Food Critic
With The
Story Behind
He is not born domineering, because he wants to better protect himself and his family. He has long known that the best defence is to arm himself, and he understands the principle of the weak and the strong in a fiercely competitive society. In his case, it doesn’t work if he is not strong enough. To win, he must have domineering power but does not bully the weak. He always wants to vindicate the “bad”, unbehaved, disobedient and unruly person in order to prove that the “bad” is not hopeless. Even if the “bad” can be successful, it has created Jacky’s belief.
Jacky Liew was born in a seemingly sophisticated family and valued for “face”. Due to his father win the lottery, his house began to hold the banquet and entertain guests frequently. It has a profound influence on Jacky’s life. He was full of admiration for his father’s knowledge on food and drink in the visitors’ mouths, and the eagerness was buried in his heart. He loves reading newspapers since he was young, and has a habit of collecting newspaper pieces. He loves to listen to adults talking about national events. In addition to reading books, he also likes to watch dramas, collects information about field folk customs and food allusions. The understanding of Jacky to the world and himself still through the books and newspapers, especially the famous column. Then for personal interest, when he was a teenager, he tried to write down the experience of eating and drinking in Chinese, and thus became very interested.
He knew a old story from his parents, in order to escape the war, his grandmother took her father who was born in China and came to Malaysia. As a native of Malaysia, Jacky was the first child and his parents had high hopes for him. However, they found that he was always too stupid to master vocabulary and pronunciation while studying. Teachers often complain about he was not handing in homework, going to class, and deliberately repeating the same learning mistakes. In front of his parents, he was just a dull boy who daydreamed and couldn’t even explain things well.
Majestic Demeanor
Photo taken besides the portrait of the 10th Supreme Ruler in Malaysia
He vaguely remembered that when he was a child, he was hospitalized with diphtheria due to the negligence of his parents. After being injected, he ran away from the hospital and was caught by the nurse. From then on, he has trypanophobia and has a great fear of “needles”. He was pushing away the dentist’s syringe in a panic because of tooth extraction and injection. Once the house renovation, he took advantage of the workers to go out, climbed up a ladder, used the light bulb hung on the ceiling as a gun, and was electrocuted to the ground. Then he used his willpower to stand up and moved his paralyzed body, pretending to accompany his parents to eat with nothing. Therefore, he believes that willpower can be invincible in overcomes any body limitation. However, he still had acrophobia in fearing excessive heights. When he graduated and went out to work odd jobs, his colleague accidentally clipped his right middle finger, cause it infected and almost amputated. He had to take half a year to recover it. However, his father suspected that he has been trying to escape from work, gaining sympathy, and even recuperating at home. With these stupid deeds, his wife could not help but sigh, “although I understand you, fortunately that you are not my son, otherwise, I will be pissed off by you.”
Since he was in elementary school, he liked to read martial arts novels. The first novel he read was “The Legend of the Condor Heroes” which he borrowed from classmates, he fell in love with reading ever since. Regardless of any kind of book, he will read all day and night like a hungry person. After reading it, he will then borrowing another book in the rental bookstore, the basic knowledge of the Jacky Liew is derived from the reading of various books, and will repeatedly read the content that is not clear. In school, he will go through the roots of things that he doesn’t understand. This often made his teachers have a headache.
In order to catch up with his studies, his mother hired a family teacher who graduated from Form 5 for him. However, he was criticized by the elementary teacher and even in front of his neighbours. She said that Jacky Liew was not born to study, and was not as smart as his younger siblings. Even he also felt himself a useless person. Since then, parents and teachers have insisted he is a “bad kid”, and it doesn’t matter if he is being punished. The other pupils also don’t want to play games with him, but he still likes to hide in a corner and meditate and talk to himself.
During his semester, Jacky Liew always wanted to make his parents proud of his hard work. This has become a goal he pursued throughout his life. He has never won a praise from his father, even when the Jacky’s children elected into the best students’ class and got all A’s, all of them are excellent in character and academics. But in the past 20 years, they still haven’t received any praise from their grandparents or even a New Year’s Ang Pau (red packet). Jacky still remember that one week before the expected date of delivery of his third child, his car was sent to repair and he forced to go home to borrow the car from his parent. Jacky’s intention was to tell his father that his grandson was about to be born, but he got a refusal from him with the reason: “I was afraid of you getting my car dirty.” Life is a matter of life, but fortunately, a friend agreed to lent his only car and coincided the birth of the child in the next day. Luckily, both mother and child were safe. Until the birth of the youngest daughter, Jacky Liew was responsible for confinement, cooking, and washing diapers for his wife, then he became experts for it.
Nowadays the new standard of “a good man” is[1]he should knowing a hard time of woman in conceiving a baby for 10 months. When she is giving birth, it is equivalent to handing over her life to the gate of hell, thus, the husband should emphasize the mother care and helped her to restore her graceful body shape. For the confinement, a husband should take the greatest possible care of the wife. This is due to the wife will pain after giving birth to the child. Therefore for the week that after a mother had given birth, what should be eaten to eliminate filth from the body, in the second week, how to promote the uterine contraction to replenish vitality so that the heart, lungs, kidneys and organs during the puerperium can be restored from the burden and recovered the wound healing of the ureter, endocrine, internal secretions and gastrointestinal peristalsis, it would depend on health care at this time. The improper care would cause the slower recovery of the mother and the possibility of chronic postpartum illnesses. This is vital to the life of a beloved wife. It should not be overlooked either the immune function or disease-resistant body of the breastfeeding newborn’s child healthiness. Therefore, the mother and the newborn should be taken care of with due parental responsibility, so that the mother can recover quickly and the children may growing up healthily. This is a responsibility of “a good man” to the family and society. Jacky Liew even had been planning to come up with a confinement book to encourage husbands to confine their wives but was rejected by the publisher, saying that he had never seen a man write a confinement book.
Curvy Figure
After the 90-days of confinement of Christin and accompanied by Jacky Liew, she restore her curvy and graceful figure.
注[1]The temperament of the new standard of the “good man” that women love
Jacky Liew believes that, a man should have high aims to govern the country (and bring peace to all), but one should first be able to govern one’s family; to govern one’s family successfully, one should first learn to govern oneself. However, the man nowadays should have independent personality and freedom of mind, he also should have a sense of responsibility and justice, and do not follow the trend in compete for fame and fortune. The values of a man’s thought and a charm of a man should not be measure by the money, the house, the car, and the educational background. His qualities should be self-confidence, demeanor, considerate, soft inside despite hard shell, has courage to face problems, do not evade responsibilities, be calm in the hour of peril, able to protect the people around. For his personalities, he should have aspiration, do great things, have ambitions, be responsible.
In fact, there are many Asian man know how to dress up well, but they still lack of masculine and walks to the path of male’s masculinity extinction. They are generally introverted, withdrawn, and weak. Besides, it is not difficult to find out that the talented men are not handsome enough; even that some are handsome, but they earn less money; some of them can make money but mostly ignore their families; some care for the families but felt that they unambitious; the one who ambitious but not romantic; the one who romantic seems unreliable; the one who reliable seems too weak. There is nothing perfect, so to become a real man and gentleman, in addition to education and training, he needs time to exercise himself.
As for women, beautiful women don’t like to cook; the one who know how to cook often no more in young age; the one gentle, but sometimes a nose of wax; the one who independent, lack of femininity; some have feminity but vain.
From the retelling of Jacky Liew earliest childhood memories, why did he fail to learn how to write in kindergarten? He often committed errors when copying text or forgot the spelling. Due to he had been suffered fatal Diphtheria and also his parents did not know that he had an unknown learning disability and Hyperactive, which made the impression that he was stubborn and a kid who difficult to teach. He remembered that once the teacher wanted to see his parents, since then, his father never asked about what he did, including his studies. His father used to compare him with his younger brothers and sisters, and let him bear the contempt from the younger brothers and sisters, they often said “wait until you can study well before you teach us. ” As a result, the friction between brothers and sisters lasted from childhood to middle age.
Since his father ignored him in childhood, the concern of his family also came to an abrupt end. In the description of how Jacky Liew worked hard to overcome the difficulties, he said that because he understood that asking for help would only be exchanged for more embarrassing condemnation, which made him even more embarrassed to ask for help. He felt that every of his progress should depend on his own efforts, depends on others will just made him scowl and be ashamed of being pity by others. He didn’t like to bother and be favoured by others. This is still the case today. Because he understands that even you repay back others help, there will be only the incidental sarcasm. Therefore, his father treated him in a cold manner which contributes to his stubbornness and perseverance. So that in the future, he also feels that his kind of personality is deriving through his unchallengeable father. Every day he just wants to grow up quickly and make himself independent and strong. No matter what the difficulty is, as long as he can survive and overcome it, it is reasonable training, if it is unreasonable, just treat it as chasten. Faintly he has the strength to rival his father. Although they have the same gene, they are two different types of men. He thinks that he will do better than their father.
Once, finally Jacky Liew seized the opportunity to tell his father that he wants to be a fashion designer and hopes to get support. However, as long as his parents think that the occupation has no future and are not follows to their wills, they will fall on deaf ears. Parents may pretend to be ignorant of their children and avoid financial problems. But the children are often the first to see their parents’ thoughts because they get along with their parents day and night. When he became a writer, he thought his parents would be happy, but this time he was sneered at by his father again and criticized in word “it is only useful when you earn more money”. Jacky was disappointed and felt that even he do well in the future, there are more facts and honors to support his successful, and he will only get more “unfortunate”, “unbelief”.
This is understandable if there is a child in the family who has been criticized as stupid and given up by the teacher since childhood and completely abandoned by his family, it is assumed that after ten years, the child turned into a successful man, and he went back home to tell his parents, he had rewarded the “title” from the royal family and his parents will be regarded as fake. His parents never expected that he would be brought the achievements home due to his stupidity since small. He remembered the first time, he drove home to visit his parents in a brand-new Mercedes, he accidentally discovered that his mother was picking up the Mercedes logo with her hand due to the Mercedes is an imported one and looks quite different to the model in the market. She thought that it was a fake one. Otherwise, it is obtained by improper means. Once again, he told his parents that he had been included in the ranks of celebrities who had been in line with the Who’s Who within hundred years in his hometown. Even if there were publications to testify, she still urged him to leave quickly, as if these matters are nothing to do with her business and she didn’t feel happy at all. This matter made Jacky Liew extremely confused. As a result, Jacky Liew developed the personality of seeking truth from all things, and always used evidence to prove himself, and paid more attention to reputation and status.
At that time, Jacky Liew had been trying to use various methods, even learning to cook, but never got his father’s praise. To let his son give up his dream of being a writer, he asked Jacky to learn to repair a car, he also promised that once he has his feet firmly planted on the ground, he would buy an old-fashioned second-hand car for him. The down payment will be pay by his father, and the instalment will be settled by Jacky. Jacky refused it as he understood that he couldn’t screw or unscrew all because of his learning disability and his skin was allergic. Moreover, he also understood that this was a deliberate arrangement by his father. His father hopes that he would be able to control him as an always good son and drive him, took his meagre salary as the payment in provides him food and shelter. Jacky’s other brother was arranged to earn US dollars in the United States. However, Jacky’s father never thought about the technologies of cars are ever-changing. By relying on the techniques of car reparation at that time, he could only repair old cars in the future. Furthermore, most people who use old cars are stretched out and will eventually end up complaining to his father that he was a useless son who is unable to earn money. So he refused this conditional invitation and bought a new car with a loan. Later, because he left home, his father dragged his new car backed to the old home and tied it to a lamp post with a big iron chain. The people in the villages talked about for it about half a year. Under the confrontation, Jacky and Christin were forced to walk for work and incurring ridicule from passing friends. Jacky at first wants to report his car lost, but later he thought that when the police asked for the whole course of the incident, how he should answer? Because the car is absurd at the home of Jacky’s father, much less, it was his father who did it, he finally gave up and did not repay the loan due to anger. Finally, the car was dragged away and he redeems it by himself. Ultimately, this is because his father is the head of the family, he has never allowed others to disobey his will and challenge his patriarchal. He even posted a big-character poster near his son’s rented premises, stated that “Go home and solve the problems” which caused a lot of discussion and suspicion in the surroundings.
From the perspective of the people in the village, his father possesses supreme authority and dignity, and he rarely interacts with others. His mother always tried to build friendly contacts with villagers. His father always has an unattainable posture. In the eyes of villagers, if a father treated his son in a bad way, the child will naturally become unpardonable and unfilial descendants. Even at Jacky’s siblings’ wedding banquet, Jacky was placed at the last table away from the head table, as punishment for disobedience and rebellion against his father and let all of the friends and relatives laugh at him. Since then, all of his friends and relatives kept away from him, he had never received any invitation from them. When recalled to the matter, Jacky has said that “when my children get married in the future and there will be no need for a banquet. Because Jacky has no any relatives anymore.” Jacky has been confused as to why his father always treats others to drinks even his finances have been exhaust and still enjoyed for the flattered from friends. He would like to experience his father’s profligacy behaviours outside to understand what kind of vain mentality is it? For work needs, Jacky Liew often joined in the feast and banquet, but mainly because of her father’s improper behaviour in her heart. This results in him always tried to get along the way with his father which ruthlessly hurting him and trying to touch the space left by his father, and looking for the childhood memories which lost his father and even be friends with his father’s previous friends to get a glimpse of the crux of the problem and kept himself never repeat the same mistakes.
According to Jacky Liew, who was a child labourer, recalled: “Getting the pocket money from parents indeed the most stringent test for Jacky Liew since childhood.” When he was still in elementary school, he has a strong sense of honour towards his friends. He often went to the small factory with her classmates to work as child labour. For the RM50 he was paid, he quickly signed up for his first martial arts class “Hong Ga (southern Chinese martial arts belonging to the Southern Shaolin styles” and bought the first novel in his life “The Prequel of Legend of the Condor Heroes”. After reading it, he vaguely feels why the style of writing is so different, but at the time he did not understand the reason. What’s more, because he is addicted to novels, and has no time to hand in his homework, he will trade with the neighbour’s child who got the first place in the whole Form and Jacky requested him to complete his writing task by paying RM 5. Decades later, he won’t know if his daughter inherited his character. At the age of 12, she submitted a manuscript to the “Little Star” publishing house without telling her father. She received the first manuscript fee for her first article “Childhood” and bought a detective novel at the bookstore. After finishing the novel “Sherlock Holmes”, she had a keen interest in psychology and reasoning at the time. With the 16-year-old winning the National Prose Award and the Special Award in Poetry, her talent has performed exceptionally in the arts and sciences, and her father helped to arrange for her a bright road in the judiciary in the future.
At that time, Jacky Liew understood that her mother had to take care of her younger siblings, do the housework, and she had to help with the family finances, so Jacky was in charge of studying and going to school by himself. The mother did sacrifice a lot to decorate his father’s beautiful life outside, and all the expenses could not be saved. Naturally, she would not spend too much time caring about a useless child, otherwise, she will keep scolding him all day long. Due to the trivial matters in his life, Jacky Liew does not want to stay at home. In order to earn money, he would wash the dishes outside and help out at the hawker centre, but no one has ever told him how to become a “useful person”, he himself too never thinks of what he can do, but often accustomed to hearing whispers from the people all around him.
Does he wonder how many cases due to the broken family had caused the tragedy of anti-social personality? Either becoming a mentally ill person or being a criminal or committing suicide because of the misery of the world, they will never become a useful person. The excellence of a person is by no means easy to develop, most of them come from families with political, economic, and cultural education. Jacky would like to say that although one’s current ability or knowledge is temporarily inferior to people if they want to fly high and build the future, they must let themselves control their own destiny.
CAUSES AND EFFECTS
THE LOVE AND HATRED BETWEEN
FAMILY
The Suffer and Pain Built a Writer
The long-term accumulation of a sense of alienation between Jacky Liew and his father had caused Jacky Liew almost obliterated by his overbearing father. He had experienced the hardship of growing up quite thoroughly long ago. It’s like a child who is forced to the edge of a cliff and cannot retreat.
According to Wang Guowei, the master of Chinese traditional studies, he put forward the phrase “the suffers that grants from the God will contributed to a writer”, which just interprets the disaster Jacky Liew suffered in childhood. It is precisely because God has arranged all kinds of dangerous situations into his experience, making a writer’s joy, anger, laughter and scolding become an essay. This is that as a writer, should treat all misfortunes as gifts, including frustration, shame, and failure, which can be a tool for the writer’s accomplishment.
Since his father seldom to went back home, Jacky began to exercise his independence and self-reliance. When he was a child, he knew that his father has a mistress outside. His father and mother always quarrel about this, which eventually caused his mother to leave the house. But his father took the opportunity to bring his younger siblings to see that woman with the intention to replace his mother’s position. His father even asked the children to call her “mother”. To protect his mother, he resolutely contends with the father and is reluctant to do it. Of course, he definitely knew that his future living would have a very hard time. But afterwards, the mother blamed him that annoyed his father. He became the scapegoat of his father, and his father blamed his mother for not teaching the children how to be polite. At that time, his mother still loves her husband, finally, the incident planted the evil cause of the distant between father and son, mother and son.
In this way, it was during his rebellious period. Although he desperately wanted his parents to care for him and take into account his feelings, however, under such a background, he became more and more alienated and hated his father.
Every time he recalled that lonely and faint childhood, Jacky Liew once said to his classmates: “From the very beginning, I didn’t get along well with my father. The only thing he would do is go against him, and he insisted not to call him “dad”. Instead, he called him “father” in an unfamiliar tone as a kind of accusation. On the one hand, because of his dissatisfaction with his father’s behaviour, and even this made his behaviour more grotesque which makes the family was disturbed. Her mother cursed and complained to him. But Jacky was initially sympathized with his mother for being deceived and wanted to speak out for her. But finally, it makes him became “heinous” in the eyes of his family. In the end, his mother chose to accept his father’s to stay, but Jacky chose to “escape” from home.
Futoshi Matsunaga Mind Control
Years later, he had no intention of reading a related case, one of which was the Japanese case “Futoshi Matsunaga Confinement Incident“. Analyzed from the psychological level, the Matsunaga designed a set of “patriarchal order”, that is, long-term psychological control of his wife Junko Ogata. Even if he had multiple mistresses outside, he still verbally insulted and abused his wife. This made her unable to resist her husband and made her follow her husband’s thinking. Later, Matsunaga manipulated seven of Ogata’s family members and had held their victims captive. Matsunaga imposed mental control and abuse to make them “psychological slaves”, until they scrambling to please him, and then obeying him. So that Matsunaga will treat them kindly and the victim thinks that obedient can avoid harm. If someone tries to violate it, others will turn against the opponent by fearing of abused by Matsunaga. This caused mutual betrayal, verbal abuse, and indifference between the victims so that no one wants to unite against Matsunaga. In fact, patriarchal order often seems around us. In the future, this will cause the psychological, spiritual, and moral distortions of the next generation, and endanger society and human relations.
LOVE DECLARATION
The reason of Jacky Liew confesses his shortcomings is to hope that the young men who encounter the same experiences understands that there are “bad” and “stupid” children in this world. Don’t give up no matter how difficult it is, and don’t deviate from your dreams. Just believe in yourself, one day you will be able to achieve what you want.
Although he didn’t drop out of school to get a job, it is already usual for him to transfer to another school. The journey he took was more difficult than others, and in the end, although it was hard, he had finished the study. Of course, the process of making money is hard. What he wished to learn will spend his own expense to learn, because he is clear that the tuition fee needs to be paid next month soon. As for food, he will not wastes it. He knew that every food required money. All of his food experiences derived from every time of comparison. The food treat by others represents care, but now it represents respect for the gourmet. A senior in the kitchen told him “the food that purchased with the money you had earned is the most delicious.” Gourmet is not about showing how well you can eat, but about learning to be miserly, recognizing the taste of the moment and keeping it in your heart.
Jacky Liew has lived through the sorrow and joy of his youth. Everything seems to be destined for him to become a gourmet in this life. Maybe it was because he had done too many jobs in the past, from kitchen work until started doing business, he had learned the business skills and also learned that all business people are profiteers. Since then he was smart in doing business and also learnt that the word spoken by different people have different effects. Some said Jacky knew how to control people’s minds. But it indeed brought him a lot of financial benefits and laid the foundation for the business, so he taught Christin Lee the way of business. After that, she became his spoke person and mediator for the business. They started to enjoy life and finding joy every day. When they had the interest, they will go to Penang to eat Laksa and returned to Singapore Orchard Road the next minute to go shopping and buy clothes. Perhaps because more knowledge was gained, Jacky’s ambition has become bigger and bigger and expand his career. When he was free, he will stay in the study room and reading books, doing academic writing. He always reminded himself “be the first, the second is meaningless”.
The steak of love-shape
Jacky Liew had prepared a love-shaped’s steak specially for Christin on Valentine’s Day in Singapore. In the upper left corner photo, Jacky was wearing a token of love given him by Christin- the Christian Dior pearl watch
At that time, the society developed the doctrine of extracting the essentials from “The Romance of the Three Kingdoms” or using “The Art of War” to save the crisis in Southeast Asia, which was great enlightenment to Jacky Liew. It made him feel that business, like the military theory of two armies confronting each other, is always inseparable from the strengths and weaknesses of the two sides, but they have to show their advantages, and when they meet on a narrow road, the one who knows the other wins.
Contributing articles while working, and publishing essays under different pen names, there is always the embarrassment of being unclear about the concubine, which has become the darkest day of the writing period. And to continue is one aspect. I hope that there will be a dignified position in the past, so that people will not feel troubled by Liao Chenglan’s past, so as to gain trust. This is the protection and survival of oneself, especially the scent of the book as a special reporter, which has created many unexpected gains for him and has become more and more confident, so that he has learned to do an errand well, such as the knowledge of sales, which must be studied in depth. Certain expertise, and then use this theory to gain fame and interests. If you want to make a difference, you have to constantly improve your experience and knowledge, and persevere.
Even though Jacky Liew is busy at work, he still takes advantage of his spare time. He does not forget to take courses and study for further studies. He understands the reasoning of “should think highly of first oneself, others will just think highly of you”. He should understand his strengths, does not manipulate by destiny, listens to opinions, be persistent but not paranoid, and motivating himself to think correctly.
Will spend his whole life to Pay
CHRISTIN’s
LOVE
Perhaps the time was ripe, with Christin Lee’s encouragement, he changed his style and focused on eating. At this time, he had already regarded his life as her life and willing to fight for his ambition as fighting her ambition. After they getting along, they found them have similarity in nature and ideology, the communication without any barriers and eventually constitutes a happy relationship between the two. Since the two were together and he has seen their beloved wife’s unrepentant dedication to love. He aimed to be the gourmet, except from her encouragement, he also for her and her children, hoping to live a better life. This is the responsibility that a man should have, that is, care for his family.
Before meeting his beloved Christin, Jacky Liew had experienced such an example. A boy from a broken family and isolated from everyone, met a girl. He fell in love soon. When the girl’s parents was about knew they going to enter a marriage, they firmly opposed it because the parents believed that their daughter should marry to her neighbor who is a future doctor. And the boy’s parents felt that the family of the girl be out of their league. Furthermore, the boy’s mother and the girl does not get along well which eventually caused the girl leave without saying goodbye for years. The whole thing was a big blow to the boy. There was an unknown story behind it. At the night that the girl left, the boy’s self-financed goods were stolen by accident, and the ensuing love and hate intertwined, almost ruining his life. To a boy who just wanted to get rid of his childhood trauma, was sorely hurt by this relationship. She seemed never pay her faith to the relationship and unforgivable things behind his back. After that, his determination to run away from home was lighten, and he did not want to return to the home that had never been given a trace of warmth.
Although this secret history is full of mysteries and makes him feel at a loss, why bad things always happen to him one after another, what did he do wrong in his previous life? He was anger of his parents’ inconsiderate and finally he ended his business, and he collected back all of the debts to pay off his debts. This all because he regarded credibility more than his life, and he wished to escape the place which had imprisoned him for years. He finally went to the place that his ex stayed, and renting a dormitory to spend his day, just like missing a lover from afar and hoping for her to come back soon, but it is always so close and far away. But this action was regarded by his father as an unpromising and cowardly behavior, which led to all sorts of weird suppressions in the future. This had made him feel uneasy and helpless. Instead of giving him the slightest support, his family gradually moved away. As the days passed, the strange looks from outside and the gossip made him more and more scared of communicate with people, and he was almost driven mad. He initially thought that working hard and working tirelessly would win the love of a woman and his ignoring of her feelings is the main reason for the end of the relationships. However, it was unexpectedly, he discovered that it is all because of “betrayal”, making him feel very angry, like being chased by a nightmare. After years, he found the wealth family of her former girlfriend who had hurt him mercilessly has became impoverished. He thought that if one day, she knows that he had became the “writer”, whether she would be even more shocking, instead of tears in her eyes.
Since this is sad, he just be himself again. If he have done nothing wrong, he will not need to leave his hometown. Only the one who owe debts will need to flee. The most important thing for a man is to get up wherever you fall. He believe that the worldly knowledge accumulated since he was young will lead to him live better. He would strive for fame to show his parents.
It’s not that no one persuaded that he should forgive his parents, but he still couldn’t let go of the “heart demon” even he father had passed away. He has been asked his mother if he could allow him to go home, but as long as he thought of his father, he didn’t dare to do it until his first child was born, then he only thought of going back. Although he was just like a guest by ringing the doorbell, hoping that his father would be willing to meet Jacky’s wife and his children and give the newborn child the best blessing. This will be the greatest contentment for Jacky, but it was failed to achieve.
Although by now, he has returned to his hometown from afar, as time goes by, he thought that the memories will be slowly fade after his father is gone. But when driving passed to the place and recalled his childhood memories, it is still difficult to get rid of the bad memories he experienced in the house. However, after the death of his father, it is still impossible to change the fact that its is Jacky Liew’s home. He has been thought that he never lives like a candle burning its life silently, but he wanted to live like a shooting star, even if it is short in time, but there is no regret. He had to brave to take risks and give his destiny a whole new look. To put it simply, “don’t believe in fate, don’t admit defeat” and “Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire” as a warning to children and families.
Writing memoirs or biographies is a kind of secret narrative that hurts others and the storyteller. As a child, he shouldn’t write about family affairs. According to Chinese tradition, let it pass in the past. However, he chosen to wrote down the story, except for he still mind to the past stories and being a father, he should no longer let the past stories confused his children such as why is the relationship between grandfather and father so bad? In this regard, it is necessary to restore the truth, right and wrong, all the evidence, someone will know the truth.
My Hubby is a
"Writer"
The Beauty of Marriage is on “I do”
From that on, Prince and Princess live happily ever after
Flower Cake for Birthday
Wishing her “Happy Birthday” with a 999 roses cake made by Christin’s best friend. The earrings are her favorite ivory earrings.
– Her story tale
The LOVE present
When the child is still young, she has been exhausting her energy to take care of the children, at the time, she will need more love and care from her husband
The greatest interest of Jacky Liew is while listening to Latin songs, taking his wife and their pledge of love travelling through the wild nature in the suburbs, smelling the faint green grass scent in the air, making the child fall in love with the pleasure of flying freely.
“The beauty of Malaysia is makes you fall in love with him”
In a special stage of life, just like the golden or pearl marriage, it is worth celebrating or giving her an unexpected surprise. It rewards her for managing the family well and let her show off. On this happy day should choose what she likes or gives gifts to each other, as a symbol of “stay together and grow old”. At this moment, of course, red wine and candlelight dinner are also on the “remembrance” menu, and the first list is to give her a coveted Mercedes, and the license plate “15”. This is due to their first love crystallization was born on the 15th Lantern Festival which is a Chinese Valentine’s Day, and Christin’s birthday on the 15th on the lunar calendar. He wishes the mother and daughter “consummation” in their lives. He will be her legal driver and bodyguard. Coincidentally, Jacky Liew’s birthday is also “Chinese Valentine’s Day”. The eldest son was also born on the eve of West Valentine’s Day.
Giving gifts is a science, receiving gifts is a blessing, happiness is only when there is love
Kedah Paddy Field
The High-Status of Wife Derived from The Husband
It means that a husband must be glory, and his wife and children will be “honored” with it.
The picture above shows Christin in the car of the Deputy Chief Minister of Sabah.
When traveling together, Christin will wear the token of love and ivory earrings given by Jacky to the official occasions.
Know Each Other
The Deputy Minister of Works, YB Dato Yong Khoon Seng, thought that the two were colleagues or friends. After the dinner, only he knew that they were the husband and the wife. Before leaving, he held their hands tightly. “In his life, he has never seen such a match. Therefore, you must cherish each other more.”
Socialite
People recognize Christin because of her husband is a gourmet, and she is the Queen in his heart
Wedding anniversary
Jacky and Christin had booked a place in a famous Italian restaurant and came with the former Deputy President of The Senate Dato Ir. Wong Foon Meng. This was the first guest they invited on their wedding anniversary. They have been working and entertaining at the same time for many years. In addition to interviews, he also asked the Italian chef team to serve exclusively, provide excellent wines that are not on the menu, and sprinkle rose petals all over the table. He also arranges jazz and old songs to play. After a meal, he will bring his beloved wife back to the world of the two when they were in love. Jacky advocates “Marriage first, love second, then honeymoon”. The picture above shows the President of the Senate personally serving food to the wife, congratulating them on their wedding annivesary.
Lady’s Diplomatic
The Christin accompanied her husband Jacky and Representative of Taipei Economic and Cultural Office in Finland Victor C.Y. Tseng tasted the wine in the wine cellar
Jacky & Christin
Pairing Off
Jacky & Christin
Pairing Off
Lady’s Diplomatic
“Ladies” generally appear in gorgeous clothes, and gracefully show their dignified, tolerant, friendly, and open female connotations, that is, they move people’s hearts with beauty and kindness, and establish a good image of a harmonious family.
I Love You Thousands Year
The important thing for a woman to a man is understanding and support.
Jacky showed his love to Christin again with this song “Love You Ten Thousand Years” at the celebration banquet where he was awarded the title award shield. Thus, this song has been their love song. As long as Jacky sings to Christin, she will turn her anger into a smile immediately, and become a momentary beautiful talk among friends.
In weal and woe
Jacky personally brought his beloved wife to the stage to receive the award shield and souvenirs from Malaysian Minister of Higher Education Datuk Dr. Hou Kok Chung’s, and gave a speech of thanks to his beloved wife in public, “The support of my wife is that she has given me independence, sufficient time and space to play my best. Without her, there would be no food critic today.
Deep affection
Even if they are at home or abroad, will always “act in the same way.” The Jacky and Christin on the picture are dressed in couple costumes, attending the international culinary review conference and serving as judges. There are many people envied.
In harmony
On the wall of the French Chef King Restaurant, there are two pictures of Mr.Liew (top) and Mrs.Liew (bottom) to commemorate their visit. The photo was taken by Liew Seng Lam. The “Salad Grecque” which is a Greek Salads that Mrs.Liew tasted made by the white cheese made from sheep’s milk, accompanied with Kalamata Olive, Oregano and Caper Spurge.
He is the gourmet and international judge, but does not required her to be able to cook, just wants her company
Never Apart
He is the judge of pageant
But …
Pick Her
No matter how beautiful, it is not the answer. I like her kindness. Let Jacky love her deeply.
“I miss you so much and wish your hear as mine”
Because of their consensus, no one can live without each other, knowing hunsband likes famous cars, when Christin was in Europe, she took the photo at the Ferrari sports car manufacturer in Maranello, Italy and send to Jacky who was waiting for her at home. But if there is worth a visit or have something delicious, they will definitely revisit the old place together again to “make up the honeymoon”.
Knowledgeable
A man’s dream
Behave well both in kitchen and hall–a typical standard for an ideal Chinese wife who excels in housework and social life
Woman with A bit of Bad
Decorous
At home
Grace
The “Buffalo Gong” symbolizing Minangkabao culture in the Royal Palace collection which besides Christin. It has great value to Jacky’s future research on the history of the royal family in Negeri Sembilan
At Outside
Classical
Arts photography gallery of Jacky Liew
Using photos to record the growth of children and make memories, and the wife’s photo is to freeze the most beautiful side and leave it in the world.
Today’s topic: Christin Lee
Wild
A poem and a rose represents Jacky’s promise to Christin. He still remembered the phrase given by his wife “flower-spitting man (glib tongue). Now, he always sent flowers to his wife.
The Jacky’s biggest hobby is shopping with his wife, shopping for clothes, visiting wedding fairs, and even shopping abroad. He likes to ask her to try on clothes on the spot and show him after dress up, and then buy it, asking her to wear her favorite one, take her to drink tea, eating and going through the market. These are the greatest satisfaction in his life.
A girl from respectable families
Happy Mother’s Day
It is the husband’s love that can make a woman continue to be beautiful, and her children will become talented and filial.
She has two pairs of son and daughter
Selected as the “Most Beautiful Mother” at the Parents’ Day Charity Dinner.
Noble
Educating children from an early age and the first to emphasize is virtue. The future is not to determine fate with scores, but to apply what you have learned.
“The greatness of maternal love” there is no gift in the world that can be as good as a kiss from a child to a mother, which makes the mother’s eyes full of tears of happiness.
This two photos were taken at The Gardens Hotel in Kuala Lumpur’s Mid Valley Plaza, and learned from the manager that he had encountered three groups of extremely refined and elegant families in his life, which made him unforgettable. One was the Selangor Princess’s family, the other was an American movie star, and the third was Jacky’s family, not only understands the way of dressing, but also the members are very educated, and all of them are extraordinary.
Happy Family
Take Three Generations to be epicure and cultivates refined taste
At a young age, his parents had already started to learn “taste and distinguish taste” from the original taste.
Jacky is not rich, but as far as he can, he will supply the best to his wife and children on the aspect of eat and dress. At least this is a man’s duty to his family. The happiness of his wife and child is the Jacky’s greatest happiness.
食通の子は刺身文化を勉強
Gourmet’s Children Study Sashimi Cultures
Her Life
MEMOIRS
It takes one hundred years to sleep
with someone in the same bed
20 In Love
Fall in Love
Love is a promise for life, never leave, never give up
30 Years
Tin anniversary
Cannot bear to tear apart
40 Years Old
Silver Wedding
Love is listening to each other carefully and ignoring the surrounding
Love is the trust given to the lover with complete confidence
Even if drunk, she will tell secret besides your ears
Nearly 50 years old
Ivory Wedding
Sheltering the leg by each other’s hand
He once said that the most noble thing about a woman is her feet. It’s a blessing to be able to hold her legs and help her keep warm.
After 50 Years Old
The love song they often sing against each other “I lived for you”
Before the Gold Wedding
LO
VE
You For
10,000 DAYS
Reveal his true sentiments
Called her “sweetheart” please listen carefully to the lyrics, what he wanted to say is “I lived for you”
Continue Our Faith
To The Next Life
BACK TO THE CLASSIC
Maternal
Love
The Only Rose
The Great Maternal Love
The Little Girl- Wei Wei
Give child a hug every day and say “I love you” to let the child feel the love of their parents and “will not learn to be badly”.
Pure
Vivi
Treat other’s child like child of herself
If a mother although she had insufficient breast milk, but she was able to feed the baby who lodge at her home and also her own baby at the same time, to let the baby’s mother take rest and recover from sick. As she knows that the difficulties as a mother, she had fully expressed the good character as a female.
“Motherly love” is the one from heart but not from the mouth or speak it online, but at home, it is the different situation or act before people how she love the children. The happiness of children can be reflected from the smile. There is no broken family could give happy smile to the children or let children to have success education.
This is the “beautiful” that Jacky admire to Christin.
My dad is food critic
Father and daughter stole snacks made by mother in the kitchen
“We didn’t steal food”
Gourmet’s Family
Published by: 20/11/2020
